Coaching is about solutions.  It’s about getting you there from here, where there is fabulous and here isn’t working for you.

It’s about putting the spring back in your step, the twinkle back in your eye, and the woohoooo! back in your day.

For example.  My imaginary friend Johnny has a problem.

His lover is now just a roommate.  They talk mortgages and lawn care and never have sex.

Ugh.

After we talk a bit, Johnny decides that his goal is to have hot sex at least a couple times a month.  mmmm, sex.

And what does that mean?  It’s sex that they both want, that they both enjoy, and that leaves them kind of glassy-eyed afterwards.

And then we talk about how to get there.  Johnny doesn’t like to talk with his partner because it’s always stressful.  So we agree on some homework.  First, that they will have date nights twice a week, no mortgage bills allowed.  And then Johnny decides to reconnect with his body by playing basketball in a local league.

After some fits and starts, that seems to help, but it doesn’t totally fix the problem.  Turns out Johnny is being really snarky about not having sex.  So we work on that, because pressure like that is completely unsexy.  And then we discover that Johnny and his partner are both kind of wanting someone else to take control.  So we look for an answer for that, too.

For a while, it seems like every answer reveals a new problem. That’s okay, because when we get to the bottom, we can rebuild on a solid foundation.

What does rebuilding look like?  Creating new habits, with supporting structures so that they’re easy.  Often this involves finding out what’s already easy and making use of that.

Eventually Johnny discovers that the best solution involves taking his partner along with him to a play party once in a while, having a regular date night, and charging for freelance work he was previously doing for free to ease the financial stress.

The base assumptions are these:

Neither Johnny nor his partner are wrong or broken.

All feelings have real roots and need to be treated that way.

Why often matters less than what.

Assumptions were made to be questioned.

Communication is key.

If this sounds like your kind of thing, drop me an email: leela@leelalifecoaching.com.  Tell me what you want to work on and we’ll set a time for an initial conversation.  If we like each other, we can go from there.